Liking Yourself, Mental Health Awareness

Be weird and enjoy it.

Those of us with mental illnesses have no need for extra reasons to feel down. More often than not, it seems, we tend to feel down about ourselves. It’s a very hard habit to break. Make a mistake at work? I suck. Say something awkward in a conversation? I’m a weirdo. Did I forget to do something?! I’m an idiot! People like us are hard on ourselves.

I’ve recently been trying to change how I look at myself. It has taken me years but I think I’m starting to win. I’ve actually gotten to the point where I’m starting to feel okay with myself. I’m starting to accept myself for who I am. I’m acknowledging the parts of my personality I think people find weird and I’m being okay with being different. That’s huge for me.

I won’t sit here and say it was easy but I definitely don’t want anything to think it’s impossible. You CAN like yourself. I used to let my weird quirks hold me back. It doesn’t help that I’ve had people point them out to me. You know what did help? Taking a good look at the people who have always inspired me. I realized that some of the people I’ve looked up to throughout my life have also been a little weird or at least different as far as social conventions go. It made me realize that being different doesn’t mean I’m unlikable. Standing out doesn’t have to be something I’m ashamed of- I can embrace it.

You can be different. You can stand out. Don’t let it be the thing that holds you back. Let it be the thing that empowers you. Nobody ordinary ever made headlines. Ever hear of a boring inventor? No! They’re all eccentric and had their own unconventional ways of doing things. Read up on some of the most successful people in the world. They have a unique way of doing things or thinking about things and look where that got them. Compare that to your office full of coworkers. Everyone in your office is doing things the same way, afraid to go outside of the box. Go outside of your box! Decorate your box. Invite people to your box. Get a new box that has lop-sided walls and doesn’t close right.

Society tends to make people feel bad for being different and yet being different is how you stand out. In business, you have to stand out or you’ll never beat your competition. The point I’m getting at here is that from now on the next time you start feeling bad about how different you are from other people just remember- you could be boring like everyone else.

Go out there and be weird.

Mental Health Awareness

Office Life

Working full time while depressed can be a real challenge. It’s even more difficult when you’re stuck in a corporate office. That’s where I’m at right now. I’ve always imagined myself being self-employed but just never knew what to do. Because of that I’ve been stuck working in corporate hell until I figure something out. Corporate life already sucks for some of us but when you’re depressed AND have dreams of getting out of the 9-5 life it can be crushing.

Sure, a full-time job isn’t all bad. Steady income, plenty of people to talk to, growing opportunities, blah blah blah. The problem is that while you’re guided to think you’re doing it for yourself you’re really doing it for someone else. Yeah, you’re busting your ass so someone else can grow THEIR company, not yours. Not all of us are okay with that, and it is certainly okay if you are, but for those of us who let our own minds defeat us all day the office life is like living in mud.

I live for Saturdays. All week I’m just dying to get there. I don’t get excited about much else. (That hurt just to type out.) I’m in school for what I used to think would be a great career but really, unless I find a way to do it independently, I’m just training for another corporate job. A life of servitude. I dwell on what I could be doing. Maybe I could use my degree to find a way to be self-employed. Maybe I can find other means. The problem is that I’m in a rush to find whatever that thing is so I never stop to really think about what I would enjoy doing. If I force myself into something I could still be unhappy.

I’ve been trying to make myself relax and just think about ideas and work slowly on improving myself instead of rushing into the first thing I think of. I’m trying to get myself to come to terms with the fact that it will take some time before I reached my ultimate goals. With that being said I’m actually a little calmer and I’m starting to look at all of my options more realistically. I have been able to narrow things down and see what are plausible opportunities. I’m also finding out what my true passions are. That feels like progress.

If you’re feeling stuck right now and want something new, I know this sounds counter-intuitive but slow down and just let yourself think about where you’re at and where you want to be. The rat race of normal life can be overwhelming for people like us and you’re probably dying to get out. You can, you just have to take little steps. If you see little bits of progress let that be your motivation to keep going. A strong word of caution: do NOT get stuck in the habit of wishing for overnight change. That puts the pressure of the entire plan on you and you will get overwhelmed and quit. Just take little steps. Even if you only work toward your goal for 1 minute a day. You’ll see little bits of progress and not only will you feel good about the work you’ve done, you’ll also feel more hopeful about your future.